by Terri MauroHow often has it happened - an acquaintance hears your story or sees your child and says, "I'm not as strong as you. I could never deal with all the things you deal with." And you shake your head modestly, and brush it off, and maybe even feel a little condescended to. But you know what? They're right. You're strong. You're facing things that the average parent doesn't even want to imagine, and you're handling them. Whether you were strong to begin with or had strength thrust upon you by necessity, you're one strong parent, one strong person. Your family needs that strength, your children thrive on it. You may wish you never had to be so strong. But appreciate that strength now. It makes you special. Capable. A force to be reckoned with.
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AMEN!!! I AM grateful for that strength! :)
i hear that alot and always think of all the things i've done wrong, like let Trinity sleep in her clothes cuz i'm too tired to change her. or making grilled cheese and soup for dinner twice in one week. when really, none of that matters, and the reality is i'm doing a great job.
even though it sometimes almost irritates me to hear that, i still need to hear it. because if one day ppl just quit saying it, i'd never be reminded that, when you have a special child, and you throw yourself completely into raising that child, it makes you a special parent.
Thanks for the reminder, some days it's hard to remember when we are in the middle of the fight just how strong we really are!
Some days I definitly say thanks to people that say that...other days I feel like any other parent.
Just the other day I was with Jax at the hospital having some procedures done, and all of the sudden I felt dizzy, and I swear I was having palpitations. On my way home from the hospital I was talking to my pediatricians nurse and telling her what happened, and she said, wow, you really are human. I was begining to think you were superwomen. You always seem happy, even if the news is not good. She really made my day by telling me because I sure don't feel like superwomen.
Blogger ate my blog, so this is my new name. I think we have to be strong at times. But, we have to find an outlet to unwind to continue to be strong.
Wow, I can't tell you how many times I have heard that and each time I do brush it off.
Thanks for the smile today Tara. You have a gift for making others feel so good about themselves.
It so very true. I think about that all the time but then there's also this quote that I love
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"
So you never really know what you can or can't do until you're put in the position. I like to think that when given the choice most people would be up to the challenge. But that might be a bit optimistic, I like to always see the good in people.
But you parents with special needs children ARE amazing and strong. But you're also just like every other parent, raising your child as best you can :).
Yep, I agree!!!!!!!!!
i always get the "you're a special person" comment for adoption and SNAP. i always reply that we love all our kids and i'm no hero.
but parents who parent any child with love and patience and respect and faith, no matter what their lot in life, that's a hero!
Absolutely, absolutely.
It is hard to be a mom to a children with such big medical needs but you do what you gotta do because you love them.
Very thoughtful and well put!
I am completely guilty of saying to people that I think they're strong for what they do, because with all of my downfalls, I think the example of such strong people is necessary in my life. It took a long time to realize that I actually have some strengths too, mostly through the help of those stronger than me.
You have amazing strength. Thank you for sharing this with us. Well written. :)
You Rock!
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