Jan 15, 2009

Finding Room & Making Time


A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When class began, he wordlessly picked up a large, empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it right to the top with rocks about two inches in diameter. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

Next, the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. The students laughed. He asked his students again if the jar was full. They agreed that yes, it was.

The professor then picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded unanimously with a yes.

Finally, the professor produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things - God, your family, your partner, your health, your children, your friends - things so important to you that if it were lost, you would be nearly destroyed.

"The pebbles are the other things in life that matter, but on a smaller scale. The pebbles represent things like your job, your house, your car.

"The sand is everything else. The small stuff."If you put the sand or the pebbles into the jar first, there is no room for the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and time on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are truly most important.

"Pay attention to the things that are critical in your life. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, and fix the disposal.

"Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just pebbles and sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

24 comments:

Shelly said...

Love this. But I'd trade the coffee for a lunch date with you sometime, maybe this summer. :)

Junior said...

That is really neat. Reminds me to focus on whats important instead of worrying about the small stuff.

Susie said...

I have seen this before but it is poignant every time I read it. Thanks for posting it:-)

Diane said...

i saw this a while back and had forgotten about it. i'm glad you posted it because there a quite a few ppl in my life that i'd like to print it out for to read. i actually wouldn't mind having a copy taped up somewhere for me to read from time to time. as a reminder.
thanks tara!

Celine said...

How inspiring! I just love it!

Nana said...

I love that story.

Danyele Easterhaus said...

i soooo got my blanket in the mail...and it has not left my side! super fabulous!!!! thank you soooo much! i have a new love in my life...and it's at the right time. it's -4 degrees!

Amanda said...

Oh, I've heard this one before, it's always been one of my favorites. Even when you think the jar is full there's still room to fill in the cracks :)

tiarastantrums said...

wow - that was really a lovely chat with a teacher - I can't really remember anything that was said to me in college that made me remember all these years later.

Michelle said...

That was awesome. Thanks for sharing it!

Amberella said...

It's always good to find time for having coffee with a friend. Thanks for sharing this. :)

kel said...

I love that!!!!

Jo-Ann said...

I love that story, thank you for reminding me. :)

Unknown said...

Good story!

CJ said...

Good analogy of life.

Honey Mommy said...

What a great lesson! I love it. I am going to have to work on that, especially this month when it is cold, dark, and so easy to be groucy. :o)

Mel said...

I love this story, and it's always good to be reminded of the REALLY important stuff. I tend to sweat the small stuff sometimes... Thanks for reminding me that it's just sand!:)

Keri said...

I've heard this before and it's great to read it again. I just love the story and the message it represents! Definitely words I try to live to by.

Pam said...

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BUT he is here, and we are so tickled that he is.

I don't have his regular blog open to the public right now due to some things that are going on, but I plan on opening it as soon as some things are finalized.

We do have a family blog www.theflockofbirds.blogspot.com

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I just haven't had time to get them all up.

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CC said...

Love the analogy. Up until the end, I was totally thinking WHAT ABOUT THE COFFEE????!!!! :) You can tell what I value. :)

The High Family said...

I've always loved this story and it's meaning is something we all should remember everyday.

Thank you for the loving reminder to keep everything I love first in my life. :)

April said...

I just love that post. Thanks for visiting yesterday. I am playing catch up.

Cristin said...

I've never seen this before... love it. Thanks.

br8eyes said...

Hey now, this looks like a post I did a little bit ago! That's ok, I can share! People need to read it and my traffic isn't that much (which is ok). ♥

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